There are many definitions to being a mom. None of which are right or wrong. There is no handbook for what life has in store once we enter the world of motherhood. Our personal definition is defined by our experiences in motherhood. Some things we may never get just right and that’s okay. Motherhood is what you make it.
According to my book, being a mom consists of a never ending list of trials, frustrations, and overcoming obstacles. It’s also about giving up your last bite of food to those batting eyelashes. It’s staying up late at night to comb hair. Motherhood is also spending hours of frustration on the first page of elementary homework. It’s being late to the carpool line in your PJs. A part of motherhood is always having company when using the restroom and listening to a few good stories while they pass the tissue. One of my favorite parts of motherhood is spending Friday nights passing popcorn watching Barbie.
Motherhood is learning how to be a mom along the way. It’s mastering how to keep from laughing while chastising the unthinkable things your children do. It’s having those uncomfortable conversations about menstrual cycles, training bras, stranger danger, and good touch bad touch. Motherhood is drawing the line between friend and parent before it’s too late. It’s about never letting them see you sweat even when things are going wrong.
Motherhood is learning how to love someone before you’ve even met. Being a mom is doing the absolute best you can with no regrets. It’s the most difficult, most painful, yet rewarding thing I’ve ever done and I did it twice.
No matter the rhyme or reason, being a mother can be defined by the length of their outstretched smiles and the amount of giggles they produce. It’s also defined by the tears shed and the wounds that have been kissed over the years. It’s about the detail in every hand drawn holiday card and the squeeze in each hug. It’s knowing in the end that your heart finally beats outside of your chest and your still alive to watch it grow.
How do you define motherhood?